Last Friday (4 August) I went to see Ivan for my checkup. It has been an age (well 12 weeks to be exact) and at times I have had pangs for the reassurance the visits to Ivan’s suites provided (even when the news was not always great).
Mark is away working, so Lilli, Stella and I decided to make an event out of the appointment. This involved seeing family, catchups with friends, shopping and eating.. wayyy to much eating!
I have wanted for a long time to give Ivan something personal from me.. a gift that was practical yet said ‘thanks for everything you have done’ for someone who undoubtedly has it all. I decided on a basket of beautiful local (non-presishable) products and a Bonsai terrarium (made locally by the wonderful Claudia aka ‘Plant Presents’ ).
I also attempted to put to paper how much I appreciated what Ivan had physically done for me yet my thoughts commonly returned to his counsel and kindness. I think there were two things that really stood out to me as I wrote.
1. It’s not the days you will remember, it is the moments.
The days during my leg lengthening were some of the most difficult I had ever (or will ever again) encounter, yet now they have passed it is not those days that I recall. It is the moments of laughter as I attempted to ‘camp’ while a massive cage was attached to my leg. The moment of joy when I made it into the shower on my own and finally took my first baby step. The moments of love when my family and friend’s faces shielded the pain I held in mine and the moments of kindness shown by strangers, medical professionals, friends and in particular my family. This really led to my next point.
2. Be kind
This is my mantra and my girls get fairly tired of me parroting it…. be kind (usually to each other!). It costs nothing, yet quite simply it can change everything. Not only for the person that receives your kindness, but for you. I was on the receiving end of so much simple kindness that now everyday I consciously make the effort. Family, friends work colleagues, strangers.. they all deserve kindness. I don’t know what is happening in their lives so it’s the least I can give. Even if I feel particularly frustrated or irritated I am actively practicing the art of ‘wrapping it in kindness’.
So unexpectedly my reflections were mostly about my ‘personal self’ as opposed to my ‘physical self’ HOWEVER I did say that it’s pretty awesome to pull on a pair of jeans and not need to roll up the hem… although 42yrs of habit dies hard!
My bone has healed and remodelled just as Ivan had knowingly predicted it would! I am actually in shock at the noticeable difference in this reasonable short period of time. This photo was taken only in June.
Last Friday’s X-rays (3mths later) show what a miracle our bodies really are.. that tibia is pretty damn straight and strong!!
Amazingwhere life can take you in 15 short months.
It won’t be long now and I’ll be walking ‘moonboot free’, albeit still with a slight limp, though nothing compared to the gait a 12cm leg length discrepancycreated !
Appreciate what you have, love all of the moments and be kind.